Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the gym

In the past I’ve spoken a lot about my weight and dealing with judgement from other people – especially when trying to lose weight.

I know from personal experience that there are many people – especially women – who feel anxtious and at times embarrassed when they hit the gym.

Which I can understand completly.

When I first started at the gym I had no idea what I was doing – I still don’t.

It was intimidating and I felt embarrassed by my body to even be there.

Seeing all those men and women lifting weights three times heavier than me, and with their bulging sick packs just petrified me.

But the reality is, they’re just people looking to workout same as me.

Ordinary people who are making the effort and time in their day to work on themselves. Whether that be for weightloss, health reasons or just to feel good.

It took me a long time to realise that I’m not the only six pack-less curvy girl who hates cardio at the gym.

Now I’m not that slimmest nor am I an expert when it comes to working out and healthy eating. But I’ve learnt a thing or two from my time at the gym.

Especially about why there’s not reason to feel scared or embarrassed.

Hopefully this might encourage or make anybody who is scared of going to the gym to give it another chance and an open mind.


The fact that you are making the effort to better your health in any way is something to be proud of.

It’s very easy to say that you want to do something about your health/body. But it’s another thing entirely to actually do it.

If you’re going to the gym, booking the classes and turning up then you’re already doing an amazing job!


The one thing I love about the gym is that you’re never short for options.

I love dance work outs so Zumba is my go to. But if you prefer cardio (said no-one ever) then there are classes just for that.

The same goes for weights.

But it’s not just about the type of things you like to do but also your experience.

If you’ve never worked out before or just don’t know where to start, then that’s ok too. 

Classes are great for teaching you the basics – and some gyms even do inductions.


This is super important to remember when you’re first starting out.

Everyone at the gym is on their own path. 

In 4 weeks time you’ll be lifting heavier weights, or running faster. So don’t worry about starting off small.

Everyone in that space was in the same position as you at some point.


When I first started at a gym I was scared of the staff.

They were all so muscular and perfect. I thought they’d be laughing at me trying to run 1km.

But the truth is they are some of the nicest people you’ll meet! 

They will help you as much as they can if you just ask!

Most gym staff will also be personal trainers so they are probably the most qualified and best people to speak to if you have any worries or questions.

If you don’t want to take my advice then heres some from my friend Evie who knows here stuff and looks so much better doing it than I do!

Make sure you also check her out on Instagram for some fitness inspiration!



Darling you’re different. You must first come to terms with knowing you will never be like the rest.

Knowing who you are and what you can do is what shapes you it’s what makes you, you. I’ve been blessed to know that I am loved and that there is nothing more I need to do in order to prove that.

“You are fearfully and wonderfully made” 

I used to play in all the sports teams and loved to dance and that was enough. 

I was free out on the track or in the studio I wasn’t doing it to look a certain way. –  Mind you I did hurdle with a pink bow in my hair and frilly ankle socks over my spikes, let’s put that down to creativity.

But growing up it was fitness, a release, healthy competition striving to be stronger, faster and a team. 

College came round and I had one dance class a week. But that wasn’t enough so with much encouragement from mother bear, along side attending pilates classes with her, I joined the GYM!

The gym, who’d have thought it would have such an impact on my life.

I always wanted to open my own gym with a massive dance studio so people didn’t have to choose between creative arts and sport.

I found myself doing what I always knew to do, the cross trainer, rowing machine and a couple of abs sets. 


I was perhaps what the industry would call the ideal size. But that wasn’t my focus. My focus was to keep fit and strong but where was I going? 

Maybe everyone in the gym looks like they know what they are doing.

8 times out of 10 they don’t. 

There’s not really any other women in this section? Should I be here?

100% yes this is where you belong!

You are not being judged trust me you are being respected.

This is the beginning of you having a place to come when no one understands what you are going through, somewhere to let of steam from that 9 to 5.

It takes time.

Maybe don’t pile the weights on the squat rack straight away, you have to start somewhere.

I’ve been lifting weights for 4 years and believe me when I say I’m still learning. 


You just need to trust the process. Slow progress is better than no progress. 

I would some days want to cry because I wouldn’t know what exercises to do or even how to do them. 

My biggest piece of advice to you is so simple and it’s something that I’m sometimes not very good at. But really all you have to do is have the confidence to ask.

That woman who looks like she’s got it all together she would love to help you.

Or even that guy who seems to really have his training down honestly it’s humbling to them, you will even be boosting there confidence.

Find a way to enjoy what you get to do. There is no magic trick or pill that can build you a stronger body and mindset.

Stop focusing on your weight and how you think you look and put on your favourite gym set and get to work.

The feeling of knowing that you can lift more than you did last month is a massive reward. And the longer you stick at it the more you will see the changes in your body.

For those of you starting out or even been lifting for a while my biggest piece of advice is to always focus on being the best version of you.

Not what the world is trying to tell you to be.

I hope this helps and encourages you to get in the weights section. If I didn’t ramble on so much I could have covered some foodie tips.

But maybe Emmi will let me blog for her again one day.

 Peace and Love, Evangeline xoxo

Let me know your gym/fitness tips and advice in the comments and if you want Evie to do another guest post?

I’ve also started an Instagram dedicated to my fitness journey if you’re interested in following me over there.



  1. September 29, 2018 / 3:22 pm

    I love this post so much! I’m naturally very slim and am not self conscious about the way I look but I’m not very physically strong so when I lift weights, I often wonder whether people are judging me for being weak. Like you said everyone is moving at their own pace and I think I need to remind myself of that sometimes x

    • September 29, 2018 / 6:42 pm

      Im so glad you liked it. Its so important to remember that everyone has their own journey and story and that you’re not alone. But also to remember that it’s important to focus on yourself and not those around you.

  2. September 30, 2018 / 6:38 pm

    Brilliant advice from you both! I love working out and do so from home, and even then I find people have lots of opinions on what you’re up to…but if you’re happy and healthy, that’s all that matters!

  3. November 6, 2018 / 2:02 pm

    Emmi, I love your first picture at the top of the post- you’re looking great! 🙂 I agree with your points about the gym- I was always so nervous to go when I was at uni because I was overweight and unfit, and didn’t want people to look at me funny. But 90% of the time, no one is even looking at you as they are all working to better themselves.

    I dont go the gym at the moment due to time issues, but I do do Zumba. I do wish I had a bit more knowledge about weight training though (one day)!

    My only tip at the gym would be to add variety to help spice up a workout, and get an awesome playlist to keep you motivated.

    • November 6, 2018 / 6:31 pm

      Hey Leanne, aww thank you! I have to agree with you about switching up a workout and a playlist is key. I always switch up my songs to keep me motivated rather than getting bored.

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