Oh the dream to be an Instagram/blogger couple that takes amazing photos of each other.
To be able to have someone to talk to about algorithms and photo editing with.
To have someone who gives me feedback on every post, tweet and photo. But alas, he’s just not that into blogging!
And I’m totally ok with that!
In fact I’m glad!
If I’m being honest at first I was pretty miffed.
I thought that my blog must be shit if he can’t be bothered reading it. I thought there was something wrong with me.
But the truth is, he’s just not into the whole social media, influencer side of the 21st Century.
Paul and I are two very different people. He likes football and is actually good at sports, and I’m more of the sit back and watch type of gal.
He likes rollercoasters and scary movies, while I prefer shopping and romance novels.
When it comes to blogging – although he’s supportive and will wait for me to take a photo of my breakfast before we eat it, he also doesn’t really care about the photo itself.
I could speak to him all day about Instagram and blog post ideas and he’ll listen but ultimately it’s not something he’s interested in.
Now some people might think that as a partner he should be interested in what I do both in my work and personal life.
But honestly I’m ok with it.
In fact it actually helps our relationship!
It means that I can come home from work and leave work at work – or at least try to.
It means that whilst he’s watching Football on a Saturday I can write a post – it also means that I can write about him and he’s none the wiser…
Of course it would be wonderful to have a boyfriend who understands how to get that Instagram photo looking just right.
But because Paul doesn’t use social media like most of us or care about Instagram photos and blog posts it means that sometimes neither do I.
He makes me stop and appreciate things rather than appreciating them through a screen.
I rarely upload to Instagram stories throughout my day because we’re so busy actually living it.
It also means that my blog is still my own.
I’ve spoken before about how I feel weird and uncomfortable when people I know in real life actually stumble across my little space on the Internet. So it’s actually nice knowing that the person I live with isn’t judging my every word.
Blogging is my form of outlet, just like his is sport, and there is no reason for us each to start sharing those outlets just because we’re together.
We’re both our own person and I wouldn’t expect my boyfriend to read my blog just because he’s my boyfriend. The same way I’m not going to watch football just because he’s interested in it.
That’s the one thing I hate about modern romance. We’re expected to have so much in common for relationships to work.
When the reality is it’s nice to have someone with different opinions and ideas.
It’s nice to try new things and have someone open you up to that.
But it’s also nice to be able to go off on your own and do your own thing without them.
I’m lucky that my boyfriend is supportive in what I do and care about, but blogging is just not his cup of tea and I’m ok with that!