Why you need to start putting yourself out there


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Growing up my Dad always taught me ‘if you don’t ask, you don’t get.”

I never really understood the saying because everything I asked for something it would lead to more questions.

Surely I was meant to get this thing straight away because I asked nicely right?

I haven’t really thought about that saying until recently and now it’s all I keep telling people.

I’m very lucky to have found myself in a company that I love and on a career path I’m really excited about.

But it took a lot of work and determination to get me to this point.

But ultimately it was because I stood up and said how I was feeling, what I wanted to do in life and where I wanted my career to go that lead to bigger things happening.

I could have just sat in my chair, coming in at 9 and leaving at 5, hoping that one day someone will notice my potential and everything will go up from there.

But things rarely work this way.

No matter what it is if you don’t take that chance and ask or raise the question then you’ll probably never know the answer.

Think of it this way.

I had two friends at university. both of which confided in my one drunken night and confessed their love for each other.

But despite me telling them that the other person liked them back they did nothing about it.

A part of them might have not believed me, but if they had just asked the question to the other person then they would have found out the answer.

But they didn’t.

So now all they have is that ‘what if’ feeling.

Although rejection of any form is horrible, it’s not the end of the world.

Whether it’s a job application or a relationship.

The worst thing that can happen is they say no. Or say nothing at all.

Sure you might feel a bit embarrassed or silly but at least you did something about it.

It could have been worse. You could never ask that question and then find out that you would have been offered the job when it’s too late and they’ve hired someone else.

Or that your high school crush liked you back but now they’re married and living in Tenerife.

Putting yourself out there is scary. Heck it’s horrible.

We love having our walls up and protecting ourselves from negativity, rejection and anything that could hurt our feelings.

But if we never leave our comfort zones how will we ever progress?

I’ve written a post about why it’s OK to keep your walls up – and I still believe this because we don’t always need to be an open book.

But sometimes in order to get to where we want to be in life or change something drastically we need to let them down.

We need to step outside and shout ‘COOEEEY I’M HERE!!”

Someone who isn’t afraid to stand up and stand out will be remembered. So stand up and put yourself out there.

Whatever it is that you’ve been afraid to do or putting off because you don’t think it will work out or you think you’re being silly – DO IT!

Whether it’s writing a book or starting a blog. Do it!

The worst thing that could happen?

Nobody reads it or likes it? Heck if you enjoyed writing it then who cares?

Do to that dance glass you’ve been putting off because you think everyone will laugh at you getting the moves wrong.

The worst that could happen? You get the moves wrong – but next time you’ll be better, and the time after that you’ll be even better than the first time.

Whatever it is that you’re been putting off, write it down and make a promise to yourself to just do it.

No matter how silly you might feel or how scared you are about being rejected. Just do it for yourself! I promise it won’t be that bad.

To make you feel better I felt like a right tit getting my friend to take the above photo. I’m clearly not a model and thunder thighs should be my nickname but heck. Who cares!




  1. April 10, 2018 / 10:03 pm

    This is something I fully and wholeheartedly believe. While I believe this, this isn’t something that I’ve always implemented to my life. This is actually that I’ve only been recently trying. It is beyond difficult, but I realized that there’s almost always a bright side to putting yourself out there. Probably one of my favorite posts that you’ve ever written Emmi xxx

    Melina | melinaelisa.com

    • April 10, 2018 / 10:13 pm

      Aww thank you so much that means a lot!

  2. April 11, 2018 / 7:29 pm

    That’s a lovely photo of you! I’m so guilty of not putting myself out there, wish I had the confidence!

  3. April 11, 2018 / 7:48 pm

    I cried reading this, I really needed this motivation.

  4. em
    April 12, 2018 / 6:12 pm

    a, you don’t have thunder thighs, I adore that image.

    Also I completely get this post! Its probably something I needed to read. I have only recently been pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Recently I have been living in a bubble and i’m tired this post is something I needed to read to spur myself on.
    Em x

  5. October 9, 2018 / 8:26 pm

    This resonates with me so much! It’s so nice to be comfortable, but great things can happen when you realize that you’re worth more. That’s exactly the mentality I had when I decided to start my blog, and it’s been such a joy ever since. Thanks so much for talking about this, and especially for acknowledging that sometimes it won’t go quite right, but it’s not the end. Just just keep at it and realize that there’s always more in store.


    • October 9, 2018 / 8:27 pm

      Thank you for sharing! I’m glad I’m not alone in this. But like you said it’s super important to know your worth but also remember that not everything is going to go your way x

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