That dreaded question which you get asked at interviews, or by your parents and family members at Christmas when they want to know what it is you’re planning on doing with your life.
A lot of us say we don’t know or make up some bullshit answer on the spot. “A manager”, “with a family and a house” or something along those lines.
We give the answers that people want to hear. Success stories, whether that be in the work place or in your home life because getting married, having a house and starting a family is what we consider a success story.
This month I went back to Cornwall for a week and although I wasn’t bombarded with these questions, being back in my family home and sleeping in my childhood bedroom got me thinking about my future.
I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want to get married, have a house, start a family, get a dog and succeed in my career but this isn’t something that defines me as a person. In fact I have very different goals that most people my age when it comes to looking to the future.
RUNNING A BUSINESS
I love my current job and I don’t think I will ever want to leave, but I do also want to start my own business.
I’d love to be in a comfortable place financially where I can run The Growing Up Guide, JustEmmi and not have to work but this isn’t the be all and end all for me.
As long as I am able to make enough money to be able to pay writers I’ll be happy.
HAVE A COMPLETED HOME
Although it would be amazing to have a house in 5 years time it’s not something that is realistic for us at the moment. So instead I want to concentrate on making wherever we’re living feel like home.
I love out little flat but there are so many little bits I want to do to it from buying furniture to putting up new curtains and paintings.
On paper it might not seem like a big job but the trick is budgeting for all the new bits and pieces.
I started learning to drive in November 2016, and I was doing really well. But since moving to Manchester I haven’t found a new instructor or done any of my theory.
Once you come out of school and that revision mentality it can be really hard to tell yourself to spend an hour learning the high way code. I’d much rather be watching Netflix.
Although I get by with public transport and Paul chauffering me around on the weekends, having a car and learning to drive is something I need to cross off my list. Mainly because where we want to move to would require me to drive in order to get to work.
COMFORTABLE IN MY BODY
This is a biggie for me. I have a number in my mind that I am aiming for but the main goal is to just be happy and comfortable in my body.
To be able to wear a bikini on holiday, to feel happy wearing a dress without tights and to just be positive with regards to my own body image.
INTOUCH WITH MY FRIENDS
After leaving university and moving to Manchester it’s been very hard to keep in touch with people I would see everyday.
I’ve made it my mini mission this year to try and meet up with as many people as possible who I may have lost touch with or haven’t seen in a while.
So far it’s going rather well and I’ve even planned to met up with my long term childhood bet friend! I think that’s a success.
But overall none of these goals are going to happen overnight. It will take effort and motivation put into every single day of the next 5 years if I want to achieve them.
We all have these big dreams for our lives from marriage and family to climbing the career ladder. But it’s not something we can just cross our fingers and hope for.
There are some extremely lucky people in this world who get everything handed to them on a plate and that’s great for them. But for the majority of us we have to work our arse off.
But that’s the beauty of it.
Whatever your goal might be it’s going to take up a lot of your motivation, time and effort to get there. But once you’re there you can look back and say “fuck yeah, I did this!”
There’s a saying that you can do whatever you put your mind to. Really it should be you can do whatever you put your mind to is you work your butt off and keep pushing to that end goal – not as catchy I know.
But seriously, if you’re reading this then think about where you want to be in 5 years. What you want your life to look like and think about how you’re going to get there.
Tell me in the comments what your main goal is and how you’re going to do it. Then everyday, every week, every month remind yourself of it. Work at it and before you know it 5 years will pass and you’ll be looking towards the next 5 years.
© Emmi Bowles