Where do I see myself in 5 years time?

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That dreaded question which you get asked at interviews, or by your parents and family members at Christmas when they want to know what it is you’re planning on doing with your life.

A lot of us say we don’t know or make up some bullshit answer on the spot. “A manager”, “with a family and a house” or something along those lines.

We give the answers that people want to hear. Success stories, whether that be in the work place or in your home life because getting married, having a house and starting a family is what we consider a success story.

This month I went back to Cornwall for a week and although I wasn’t bombarded with these questions, being back in my family home and sleeping in my childhood bedroom got me thinking about my future.

I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want to get married, have a house, start a family, get a dog and succeed in my career but this isn’t something that defines me as a person. In fact I have very different goals that most people my age when it comes to looking to the future.

RUNNING A BUSINESS

I love my current job and I don’t think I will ever want to leave, but I do also want to start my own business.

I’d love to be in a comfortable place financially where I can run The Growing Up Guide, JustEmmi and not have to work but this isn’t the be all and end all for me.

As long as I am able to make enough money to be able to pay writers I’ll be happy.

HAVE A COMPLETED HOME

Although it would be amazing to have a house in 5 years time it’s not something that is realistic for us at the moment. So instead I want to concentrate on making wherever we’re living feel like home.

I love out little flat but there are so many little bits I want to do to it from buying furniture to putting up new curtains and paintings.

On paper it might not seem like a big job but the trick is budgeting for all the new bits and pieces.

DRIVING

I started learning to drive in November 2016, and I was doing really well. But since moving to Manchester I haven’t found a new instructor or done any of my theory.

Once you come out of school and that revision mentality it can be really hard to tell yourself to spend an hour learning the high way code. I’d much rather be watching Netflix.

Although I get by with public transport and Paul chauffering me around on the weekends, having a car and learning to drive is something I need to cross off my list. Mainly because where we want to move to would require me to drive in order to get to work.

COMFORTABLE IN MY BODY

This is a biggie for me. I have a number in my mind that I am aiming for but the main goal is to just be happy and comfortable in my body.

To be able to wear a bikini on holiday, to feel happy wearing a dress without tights and to just be positive with regards to my own body image.

INTOUCH WITH MY FRIENDS

After leaving university and moving to Manchester it’s been very hard to keep in touch with people I would see everyday.

I’ve made it my mini mission this year to try and meet up with as many people as possible who I may have lost touch with or haven’t seen in a while.

So far it’s going rather well and I’ve even planned to met up with my long term childhood bet friend! I think that’s a success.

But overall none of these goals are going to happen overnight. It will take effort and motivation put into every single day of the next 5 years if I want to achieve them.

We all have these big dreams for our lives from marriage and family to climbing the career ladder. But it’s not something we can just cross our fingers and hope for.

There are some extremely lucky people in this world who get everything handed to them on a plate and that’s great for them. But for the majority of us we have to work our arse off.

But that’s the beauty of it.

Whatever your goal might be it’s going to take up a lot of your motivation, time and effort to get there. But once you’re there you can look back and say “fuck yeah, I did this!”

There’s a saying that you can do whatever you put your mind to. Really it should be you can do whatever you put your mind to is you work your butt off and keep pushing to that end goal – not as catchy I know.

But seriously, if you’re reading this then think about where you want to be in 5 years. What you want your life to look like and think about how you’re going to get there.

Tell me in the comments what your main goal is and how you’re going to do it. Then everyday, every week, every month remind yourself of it. Work at it and before you know it 5 years will pass and you’ll be looking towards the next 5 years.

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16 Comments

  1. January 22, 2018 / 8:41 pm

    In the next 5 years I would LOVE to own a business or at least be starting in the right track with one. I’ve had so many ideas with my blog and other creative projects lately that I’m ready to get started. I’d also love to be driving by then, driving has been something I’ve put off for too long because of fear. Things will be more beneficial with your own transportation. And I agree with building that confidence, I think it’s something many of us work on for ages but the time comes. ✨ good luck with all your goals!

    • January 22, 2018 / 9:09 pm

      Thank you for sharing your goals as well!

  2. January 23, 2018 / 2:23 am

    In the next 5 years, I would ideally be graduated with my Honours and have figured out what in the world I want my career to look like. At the moment, I am tossing between Academia and Industry, so that’s going to be a fun decision. Hopefully my partner and I will still be together by then and maybe onto our way to the altar, but who knows? I tend to try not to plan too far ahead, as life is very unpredictable. I just know I want to finish uni.

    • January 23, 2018 / 9:33 am

      I think it’s important to have goals but also important to keep your options open because nobody an predict the future

  3. January 23, 2018 / 10:30 am

    I really struggle looking at the next five years because everything in my life changes so quickly that it’s difficult to plan. If you told me I’d be where I am now, I would have laughed. It’s great you’re thinking about your future.

    Steph x
    http://www.wanderlustpulse.com

    • January 23, 2018 / 10:33 am

      I think it’s all relative to the individual

  4. Aurelia Blush
    January 23, 2018 / 6:30 pm

    I’m too with you on this – in a nice home, with a few puppies roaming around and my other half by my side.

    I must say though, I’ve done a lot of ‘five year plans’ and goal setting for the future and they always come down to the same ultimately – to be happy and be able to work every day, without feeling like I worked a day in my life.

    Typical millennial right? Haha

    Michaela | http://www.aureliablush.co.uk

    • January 24, 2018 / 7:41 pm

      I would love to have puppies running around everywhere!

  5. January 23, 2018 / 11:50 pm

    I feel like I’ve created many 5 year plans, from my original 5 year plan I should have been graduating from uni this year but instead I’ve just went into first year. Although I don’t ever really stick to them in my current 5 year plan I want to graduate uni and hopefully be in a job related to my field.
    I do think it is good to have a rough plan, it helps you when you are reflecting to see what you maybe haven’t yet completed.

  6. January 24, 2018 / 2:41 am

    I appreciate your honesty here, keep going!! I’ve learned that five year plans don’t work for me. I do believe goal setting is important and congratulate you for that! For me, I try to live with specific intentions and shorter term goals with an open mind to adapt and change my goals based on what I learn and experience along the way.

    • January 24, 2018 / 7:40 pm

      Some people need long term goals and some need to be able to see it on the horizon. I think everything is relative to the individual but as long as you’re happy thats all that matters.

  7. January 24, 2018 / 3:19 pm

    In 5 years from now, I would love to have my own business. I want to be able to work where I want to. I want to travel 5-6 times in a year. I want to be surrounded by friends and family that love me. I want to be dating/married to someone I love. We’ll see what happens! Great post. Really got me thinking as to what I want to accomplish, aha! xxx

    Melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com

    PS: I followed your facebook page. I would love if you maybe like mine too? http://www.facebook.com/ivefoundwaldo

    • January 24, 2018 / 7:39 pm

      Im glad it got you thinking about the future. Thanks for following and I’ve given your Facebook a like

  8. February 3, 2018 / 4:30 pm

    I know a great Manchester based driving instructor if you want me to hook you up. I passed first time with him 🙂

    • February 3, 2018 / 6:34 pm

      Oooo yeah can you tweet me @emmixbowles

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