9 things you should never say to a blogger

JustEmmi.com 10 things you should never say to a blogger

There is no doubt that the blogging industry is becoming bigger every month. More people are reading blogs and creating their own, and bloggers are even starting to be spoken about in the mainstream media.

But whether you have 100 followers or 1 million, there are a few irritating questions that you get asked as a blogger – usually from people who aren’t bloggers and don’t ‘get it’.

Most bloggers are very open about their life and blogging and are more than happy to answer your questions, but there are a few things which are a bit rude to ask – and ultimately you should avoid.

1. FOLLOW ME BACK

I can only speak for myself when I say that this is a massive turn off!

I am more than happy to check out your blog if you leave it in the comments but asking me to follow you because you’ve followed me is not how things work.

Just as I want my followers to follow me because they genuinely like my blog, I’m only going to follow blogs I want to read – not because you’ve left me comments asking to follow you back.

2. DO YOU GET FREE STUFF THEN?

Whenever the topic of my blog comes up in conversations this is usually the first thing I get asked.

Although many bloggers (especially bigger ones) get sent lots of amazing goodies this isn’t the situation for all of us, let alone the reason why we blog.

Blogging is hard work, especially if you post regularly, take all your own photos and have deadlines to keep to. Many people forget about this and instead see us as “freeloaders” who get sent things for free.

3. ARE YOU TRYING TO BE FAMOUS?

I’ve written about this in a separate blog post, but I remember Paul asking me once why I blogged? Was I trying to become famous?

There is no denying that bloggers and Instagram influencers with high followings are becoming what could be considered a celebrity.

But the majority of people who start a blog are doing it because they enjoy it. They want to share their opinions and adventures. They just so happen to get a lot of followers and well you can understand where it goes from there.

4. STOP TAKING PHOTOS FO YOUR FOOD

Hands up who’s had a friend, partner or relative ask them to stop taking photos and actually eat the food? Sorry, not sorry.

Instagram has become a massive platform for bloggers and whether you like it or not documenting our day, from when we eat, to what we wear is apparently what our followers seem to want.

5. HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU MAKE?

It is pretty much an unspoken rule in any workplace not to talk about how much money everyone makes. It demoralised people and is just plain rude.

Blogging is different as we don’t have a salary. We might make a commission from affiliate links or sponsored posts.

What makes it even more different is that everyone has different rates – these of which change depending on many different factors.

It’s understandable why someone might be curious as to not only how much money bloggers make, but how they do this. But just like an office job, asking a blogger about money is rude – unless they are open to discussing it and have made this clear.

6. CAN YOU GIVE ME A SHOUT OUT

This is very similar to asking a blogger to follow you. You are basically just trying to use them to up your own following. It’s not cool!

7. OH SO DO YOU MAKE VIDEOS?

The amount of times vloggers have been classed as bloggers, and the other way around, is ridiculous. Writing a blog post and video producting are two very different things, and although some bloggers may dabble in both, they don’t necessarily go hand in hand.

I personally feel that there is a pressure on bloggers to take up YouTube because it’s just the next logical step apparently. When really if we want to stick to blogging then let us stick to blogging.

8. HOW CAN I GET LOTS OF FOLLOWERS?

Disclaimer – I do not have thousands of followers, but there are some bloggers out there who do.

No matter how big your following is, if you’ve been around for a while you will have been asked this question.

Just like the free stuff question, gaining followers takes a lot of hard work. there’s not really a secret to it (unless you want to be fake and buy all your followers).

The truth is you have to work really hard. You might have a few posts go “viral” or get RT’d or Re-grammed by a brand or bigger influencer but deep down it’s all down to those late nights trying to rewrite content and early mornings taking photos whilst there’s a glimmer so sunlight.

It’s very insulting to think that there’s this “get big quick” secret and that no blogger has  ever had to put in a lot of hard work to get to where they are now.

9. WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO STOP THIS HOBBY?

This is something that a lot of bloggers have discussed. When are we going to give up/stop blogging.

The answer is whenever we want to – if we want to.

Blogging may be a “hobby” at first but it turns into something much more than that. It’s a community. It’s a way of voicing your opinions and for some it’s now their main source of income.

There is no reason for anyone to have to stop blogging. We don’t have to grow out of it as we get older.

Just because it isn’t a conventional form of hobby doesn’t mean we have to quit any time soon.

Although these are some rather irritating questions that can get a bit on our nerves – especially when they are asked all the time, they don’t have to be taboo. There are ways of approaching bloggers, and anyone for that matter in order to ask a question.

If you would like us to potentially follow you back say you’d appreciate it if we checked out your blog rather than “follow me back”.

If you’re curious about how we make money, and how much we make ask politely in conversation, don’t start with it.

At the end of the day we are bloggers because we like to write, to talk. We are happy to open up a bit and therefore the majority of us are more than happy to answer questions, but only when they are asked din the right way.

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10 thoughts on “9 things you should never say to a blogger

  1. I agree with the money point so much! I don’t do many sponsored posts but whenever I do, people ask and ask how much I earn by doing them. I always say you wouldn’t ask how much a friend how much they earn in a day so why would you ask me?? I feel you on the taking pictures of food. I get moaned at but reality is, I take the pictures to do what I ate posts and no one truly understands that hahah! Great post x

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  2. I agree with everything except taking about how much you make. I guess it comes down to personal preference but I find that taking about those difficult things, such as salary, is actually beneficial. For instance at one of my old workplaces while talking about our salary we found out that our boss was severely underpaying some of the new staff. That’s just my two cents, loved the rest of the post as always!

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  3. I couldn’t relate to this post more! This is so accurate, especially about the money and follower questions. It’s so aggravating, but thank you for sharing your honesty!

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