9 things you should never say to a blogger

JustEmmi.com 10 things you should never say to a blogger

There is no doubt that the blogging industry is becoming bigger every month. More people are reading blogs and creating their own, and bloggers are even starting to be spoken about in the mainstream media.

But whether you have 100 followers or 1 million, there are a few irritating questions that you get asked as a blogger – usually from people who aren’t bloggers and don’t ‘get it’.

Most bloggers are very open about their life and blogging and are more than happy to answer your questions, but there are a few things which are a bit rude to ask – and ultimately you should avoid.


I can only speak for myself when I say that this is a massive turn off!

I am more than happy to check out your blog if you leave it in the comments but asking me to follow you because you’ve followed me is not how things work.

Just as I want my followers to follow me because they genuinely like my blog, I’m only going to follow blogs I want to read – not because you’ve left me comments asking to follow you back.


Whenever the topic of my blog comes up in conversations this is usually the first thing I get asked.

Although many bloggers (especially bigger ones) get sent lots of amazing goodies this isn’t the situation for all of us, let alone the reason why we blog.

Blogging is hard work, especially if you post regularly, take all your own photos and have deadlines to keep to. Many people forget about this and instead see us as “freeloaders” who get sent things for free.


I’ve written about this in a separate blog post, but I remember Paul asking me once why I blogged? Was I trying to become famous?

There is no denying that bloggers and Instagram influencers with high followings are becoming what could be considered a celebrity.

But the majority of people who start a blog are doing it because they enjoy it. They want to share their opinions and adventures. They just so happen to get a lot of followers and well you can understand where it goes from there.


Hands up who’s had a friend, partner or relative ask them to stop taking photos and actually eat the food? Sorry, not sorry.

Instagram has become a massive platform for bloggers and whether you like it or not documenting our day, from when we eat, to what we wear is apparently what our followers seem to want.


It is pretty much an unspoken rule in any workplace not to talk about how much money everyone makes. It demoralised people and is just plain rude.

Blogging is different as we don’t have a salary. We might make a commission from affiliate links or sponsored posts.

What makes it even more different is that everyone has different rates – these of which change depending on many different factors.

It’s understandable why someone might be curious as to not only how much money bloggers make, but how they do this. But just like an office job, asking a blogger about money is rude – unless they are open to discussing it and have made this clear.


This is very similar to asking a blogger to follow you. You are basically just trying to use them to up your own following. It’s not cool!


The amount of times vloggers have been classed as bloggers, and the other way around, is ridiculous. Writing a blog post and video producting are two very different things, and although some bloggers may dabble in both, they don’t necessarily go hand in hand.

I personally feel that there is a pressure on bloggers to take up YouTube because it’s just the next logical step apparently. When really if we want to stick to blogging then let us stick to blogging.


Disclaimer – I do not have thousands of followers, but there are some bloggers out there who do.

No matter how big your following is, if you’ve been around for a while you will have been asked this question.

Just like the free stuff question, gaining followers takes a lot of hard work. there’s not really a secret to it (unless you want to be fake and buy all your followers).

The truth is you have to work really hard. You might have a few posts go “viral” or get RT’d or Re-grammed by a brand or bigger influencer but deep down it’s all down to those late nights trying to rewrite content and early mornings taking photos whilst there’s a glimmer so sunlight.

It’s very insulting to think that there’s this “get big quick” secret and that no blogger has  ever had to put in a lot of hard work to get to where they are now.


This is something that a lot of bloggers have discussed. When are we going to give up/stop blogging.

The answer is whenever we want to – if we want to.

Blogging may be a “hobby” at first but it turns into something much more than that. It’s a community. It’s a way of voicing your opinions and for some it’s now their main source of income.

There is no reason for anyone to have to stop blogging. We don’t have to grow out of it as we get older.

Just because it isn’t a conventional form of hobby doesn’t mean we have to quit any time soon.

Although these are some rather irritating questions that can get a bit on our nerves – especially when they are asked all the time, they don’t have to be taboo. There are ways of approaching bloggers, and anyone for that matter in order to ask a question.

If you would like us to potentially follow you back say you’d appreciate it if we checked out your blog rather than “follow me back”.

If you’re curious about how we make money, and how much we make ask politely in conversation, don’t start with it.

At the end of the day we are bloggers because we like to write, to talk. We are happy to open up a bit and therefore the majority of us are more than happy to answer questions, but only when they are asked din the right way.

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  1. November 24, 2017 / 7:12 am

    Correctly described,It’s a passion,it’s not to become famous or making money.period.

  2. November 24, 2017 / 12:14 pm

    I agree with the money point so much! I don’t do many sponsored posts but whenever I do, people ask and ask how much I earn by doing them. I always say you wouldn’t ask how much a friend how much they earn in a day so why would you ask me?? I feel you on the taking pictures of food. I get moaned at but reality is, I take the pictures to do what I ate posts and no one truly understands that hahah! Great post x

    • November 24, 2017 / 12:16 pm

      Thank you. I think it’s just rude to pry into things like money unless say that person is openly talking about it

  3. November 24, 2017 / 2:34 pm

    I completly agree with all of these! I hate that people view it as you want​ing to become famous and that they don’t understand it is just like any other hobby! This is a great idea for a post xx

  4. November 25, 2017 / 9:17 am

    I agree with everything except taking about how much you make. I guess it comes down to personal preference but I find that taking about those difficult things, such as salary, is actually beneficial. For instance at one of my old workplaces while talking about our salary we found out that our boss was severely underpaying some of the new staff. That’s just my two cents, loved the rest of the post as always!

  5. November 28, 2017 / 5:18 pm

    I couldn’t relate to this post more! This is so accurate, especially about the money and follower questions. It’s so aggravating, but thank you for sharing your honesty!

    • November 28, 2017 / 5:40 pm

      I’m glad you can relate. I feel so mean but it’s the truth.

  6. December 25, 2017 / 10:05 pm

    This is such a good post! So true! I’ve been asked many of these things before and worst of all are these comments straight out asking you to follow somebody back or even follow them so they follow you. People don’t get it do they? If you don’t wanna follow my blog cause you like what you see then don’t bother. And vice versa. 😀

    Jess | Jess in Retrospect

  7. December 25, 2017 / 10:53 pm

    I’ve only been blogging for nearly 2 years (it doesn’t feel that long!), but there have been the occasional “Follow me back” kind of comments. Others I’ve seen while viewing other blogs. Really interesting post, enjoyable read!

  8. January 3, 2018 / 10:18 pm

    Yes!! I so agree with all of them! Great post 🙂


    • January 3, 2018 / 10:19 pm

      Thank you glad it’s not just me haha

  9. Bambi
    February 9, 2018 / 10:25 pm

    First time on your blog and I love this post, when I first started blogging I got asked the money question from a few people, was weird and mega rude!

    Anyway, new follower here! I really did enjoy your writing and how well it was put across 🙂

  10. February 10, 2018 / 7:27 pm

    I love this! It’s so funny how the community has changed over the years. You can tell who has been around for 5 years and who has been around for 5 minutes! I’m all for support of other blogs, it’s what bloggers thrive on, the support of the community, but I too HATE the ones who come in last minute and start demanding these “freebies”, “perks” and “shoutouts”. People work hard for what they have and it shows!


  11. May 7, 2018 / 10:08 am

    I haven’t been blogging for long, but I can already see a pattern with a few of these! especially will you follow me back haha! I just find that so irritating, if I like your content, then yes I will x


    • May 7, 2018 / 5:34 pm

      Exactly, but surely you wouldn’t want fake followers anyway

  12. May 7, 2018 / 12:10 pm

    Oh god yes, I hate it when I tell someone I’m a blogger and they ask me how much money I make!!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

    • May 7, 2018 / 5:34 pm

      It’s so annoying isn’t it. You wouldn’t ask someone who worked in retail, or at an IT company that would you.

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