It’s that time of the month again where I talk about some pressure we face in life and how it’s OK to just stick two fingers up and say “I don’t care”. This week I wanted to talk about fashion and what it’s like to not really fit in with it.
I’ve had a love hate relationship with fashion most of my life. I’ve always loved the designs and styles and looking at all the mannequins when the new range comes out every season. But at the same time fashion has never been something I’ve focused on when it comes to my lifestyle.
This is mainly because the styles that are “in” rarely look good on my body type and even if they do I feel uncomfortable in them. I mean off the shoulder tops are just a pain, especially when you have to wear a strapless bra.
Instead I stick to comfy clothes. Leggings, t-shirts (mainly with slogans on), jumpers (mainly with slogans on) and just general baggy things. It makes me comfy so why should it matter if it’s not high fashion?
The idea of the female image is one that is always changing but every time women are “meant” to be seen as fashionable and stylish, especially whist they are young – or so society says we should.
It can be easy to understand from this why women who aren’t really into fashion and make-up can get a bit disheartened. I’ve felt like this a few times. Looking in the mirror at my boring comfy clothes and amateur eyebrows. I never compared to those girls who could just put on a piece of fabric and look like a model. This is what put me off the idea of fashion for a while.
But fashion isn’t about who’s got the latest shoes or bag, nor is it about everybody looking the alike and wearing the same New Look blouse or Topshop coat.
Fashion is about so many different things than just colours and styles. It can be a way of showing your creativity and your personality. It can be a way of making a statement. Or it can just be a way of covering your naked body.
But whatever fashion means to you, it doesn’t mean that you have to wear what everybody else is wearing. You shouldn’t feel like you have to buy the latest handbag or top because it’s what’s “in” for that brief moment in time.
It’s OK to just do you. Whether that means a t-shirt and some joggers, or a bright pink dress. Just because the shops are selling it doesn’t mean it’s what we should all be wearing for the next few weeks.
For some people though, fashion makes them happy and that is great! Be creative with it and show off your style! If you’re somebody who can pair an outfit together and rock the sales then I take my hat off to you. Fashion can be an amazing way of showing off who you are and there are many fashion bloggers and influencers out there whose content I love and always read.
But for others it’s just a way of dressing yourself in the morning, and that is OK too! As long as you are happy and comfy then that is all that should matter.
What’s so great about fashion is that it’s like art. It’s subjective. You can make your own styles and fashion. For some this might be all black clothing, for other’s it could be a throwback to the 60’s. For me it’s jeans and a slogan tee.
Fashion isn’t meant to be about fitting in. Fashion is meant to be about expressing who you are so it’s OK to not fit in. It’s OK to not wear what the mannequins are modelling and it’s 100% OK to just do you, because you are more than the clothes on your back.
Let me know your thoughts on fashion and whether you think it matters if you are in with the new trends or not.
(I’ve also made a new section just for this “It’s OK” feature if you want to read more)
© Emmi Bowles