How has it already been a month since we moved into our new flat? Time just seems to be passing me by at the moment.
But wow, a whole month of being around each other 24/7 (besides 9-5 when we are at work). It has been a very interesting experience so far. And it’s safe to say we are still learning a lot about each other even though we’ve been together for 4 years now.
I wanted to share some of the challenges and little things we have come across from living together this past month in the hope it might help other couples who are moving in together.
HOUSEHOLD CHORES BECOME TWICE AS BIG
Being a university student I was used to doing my own washing, shipping, cleaning and general household chores. But that was just the mess of one person. As you can imagine two people make twice the amount of mess.
I was used to doing two loads of washing a week but now it’s every other day. It can get a bit tedious but we both agreed to stay on top of it and not leave things till the next day which has really helped.
MEAL TIMES CAN BE CHALLENGING
I think this is just down to how different we both are when it comes to what we do and don’t like. I love fish and Spanish food where as he prefers burgers and pizza. It can be challenging to find different things to eat every night that we both fancy but it’s not impossible.
We’ve gotten into the habit of planning our meals a few days ahead which has helped massively.
SPENDING TIME APART ISN’T A BAD THING
Ok so you’ve just moved in with your partner and you want to be that cute couple who spend all their time together in their nice new flat. Great but trust me time apart can be a blessing.
When you’re living in each others pocket time apart can actually give you time to recharge and give yourself time for you. On Thursdays Paul has football so I have the flat to myself all night to chill, blog and take a lush bubble Bath. He then gets every other Sunday to himself whilst I’m at work.
As silly as it might sound it gives you chance to miss eachother instead of wishing they would bugger off and give you some space. Let’s face it, we all need time for ourselves at some point.
ITS NATURAL TO DISAGREE
As you can imagine living with somebody for the first time can cause a few arguments. But this isn’t something to get upset over.
Paul and I disagree on many things from politics to who’s going to take the bin out this week. It’s natural and unless you’re screaming at each other every night and smashing plates you shouldn’t really worry.
I’d much rather have somebody disagree with me and learn about why they disagree and take in their views and opinions then have somebody who just nods and goes along with everything I say.
Plus if you do have an argument and end up on the sofa flowers and chocolates tend to help the situation.
COMPROMISE IS KEY
We’ve been fortunate enough to have a landlord who is happy for us to hang things on the wall. This is great because it means we can decorate our flat.
The only issue is you have to decorate it with the other person in mind. This is why compromise is a big issue in relationships, especially when it’s a new one. I’ve been given free rain over the bedroom as long as there are no cheesy quotes – I know it sucks but its a compromise.
The same goes for little things like what movie to watch or what to have for dinner. If you can learn to work together rather than against each other life will be so much easier and simpler.
YOU WILL CONSTANTLY LEARN SOMETHING NEW
Paul and I have been together now for 4 years and we are still learning new things about each other every day.
Unfortunately for me he’s learning just how ticklish I can be, and he’s learning just how grumpy I can be in the morning.
I’ve always believed that you will never know everything about your partner because people are constantly changing. Our tastes and preferences change everyday and everyday we learn something new about ourselves and other people.
Living together so far has been an interesting experience to say the least but I wouldn’t change anything. We are growing as individuals as well as a couple, and it will take time to truly settle and get used to each other. But for now I’m happy with how things are and can’t wait for the next 11 months in this flat together.
© Emmi Bowles