Hello again lovelies. Now I know it’s been two weeks since I turned 21 but lets face it, the next big birthday after your 21st is your 30th so don’t blame me if I’ve been putting off writing this post.
But despite my wishful thinking I’m growing up and as cliché as it sounds, I’ve been through a fair bit over the years. The good, the bad and the pure ugly stuff that gets buried in a box in my head never to be opened again. I wanted to share some of those life lessons with you all today in the hope you can all learn from my mistakes.
DON’T WORRY WHAT OTHERS THINK
Growing up I always used to stress over what other people thought of me, especially the ‘popular’ kids in school. I wanted to be like everybody else, wear the fashionable clothes and listen to the same music and just be cool. But in reality none of this was ever cool.
When you spend so much time worry about what others think you forget that everybody else is doing the exact same thing. But really nobody is looking at you because they are too focused on thinking that you are looking at them. When you stop caring what other people might or might not think about you suddenly life feels a lot easier. That weight comes off your shoulders and you wonder what you were so worried about in the first place.
FRIENDS COME AND GO
I’ve changed schools and locations three times now and every time we say we will keep in touch and still meet up, but after a few months that never happens. It can make you sad but it really shouldnt. Over your lifetime you will come into contact with thousands of people. Some will stay in yourself for a few minutes, others maybe years. People will always be coming and going and instead of dwelling on that lost friendship, just remember the good times you used to have together.
ITS OK TO NOT HAVE A CLUE
This month I will be graduating from university but you wouldn’t think that for the majority of my time at school I had no clue what I was doing. Heck I didn’t even know why I chose to do a journalism degree until my final year of uni… not the most planned of decisions.
As kids we are meant to know what university we want to go to when we are still doing GSCE’s. We are meant to know the meaning of life and what meaning we are going to give to our life when really we should just be worry about if the Jonas Brothers are going to reform or not.
It’s natural not to know what you are doing, and most adults just wing it. I mean we try to plan things out but we’re just wandering along like you are with no clue in the world – expect we’re just better at hiding it.
MOTHER KNOWS BEST
I was that stroppy teenager who hated listening to her parents. It was my way or the highway. But now, here I am phoning my mum every other night for advice and help with all things big and small.
Although we might not want to listen to them, our parents are like a fountain of knowledge and can really come in handy when trying to figure our how to do a tax return or iron a thin fabric. Don’t take them for granted because they are always going to be there for you when you need them.
YOU CAN CHANGE – BUT YOU SHOULDN’T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO
This kinda goes with my first point about not caring what other people think.
Don’t let anybody tell you that you can’t do something. Pass an exam, learn a new skill, lose weight, complete a goal. Believe it or not you can do most things in life. It will take a lot of hard work, time, persistence and effort but you can do it.
But just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should feel like you have to. Don’t go to university just because it’s what’s expected of you. Don’t lose weight because of remarks others might make. If it ain’t broke why fix it?
21 doesn’t really feel any different from 20 but it comes with so many more opportunities and responsibilities. No doubt it will also come with mistakes and lessons to be learnt over the next decade of my life.
Making mistakes is the easy part, its correcting and learning from them which matters.
© Emmi Bowles