It’s OK to be an introvert

It’s 8pm on a Tuesday, and as I write this I’m catching up on Love Island and deciding what movie I want to watch later. It’s a week-night so it wouldn’t surprise me if most of you have similar plans. But for us, this is what we do most nights. Mainly because we’re a bit geeky when it comes to Netflix and Chill, but also because despite the confidence I try to give off I’m quite the introvert at heart.

I hate putting a label on it but my personality and interests have always swayed more towards the introverted side of things. Reading. Watching Movies. Writing. Not really the things that get the party going ay?

But despite my love for a good night out, and spending time with friends I am still technically an introvert.

Sadly though the word introvert has some negative connotations. When we think of introverts we tend to think of shut-ins. People who never see the light of day. Thos who keep themselves to themselves and ignore others. Who prefer dark rooms and probably have no friends – ok maybe that’s a dramatised version but you get the gist.

Words like Introvert and Extrovert weren’t really thrown around during my childhood, but now they are nouns which young people are using to define themselves. Because of this I thought it was about time I touched on the topic.

Over the past few months I’ve had a lot of job interviews, some of which included doing a personality test where you get your introvert/extrovert score.

This in itself is a weird concept but whether or not you are classed as an introvert or extrovert shouldn’t really matter when its comes to things like jobs, university or Twitter bios. Personality is very important in day-to-day life but whether you prefer to paint the town red or watch paint dry shouldn’t be a deciding factor.

Just because you are an introvert doesn’t mean that you don’t enjoy spending time with friends or that you’re not a team player. Same as if you’re an extrovert you can still love reading and spending time on your own.

But I have to say I feel that like society, these words are changing. Their original classification no longer stands. People arent define by one word anymore. We are all varied.

I like to think personalities are a bit like pick and mix bags. Some people have more social aspects thrown in where as others may have more intellectual bits in the bottom. Or if you’re like me you have a bit of everything in your bag which you pull out depending on the situation.

Being 21, trying to live the “city life” and working in a very sociable office I wanted to write this post to let any other “introverts” know that its ok to stay at home with a movie rather than go out with the guys or gals. But just because you’re an “introvert” 70% of the time, doesn’t mean that on those odd weekends when you want a cocktail and a dance you should feel out-of-place.

I used to always say no to going to parties at college and university because it wasn’t really my thing. When I eventually went out with them they were shocked at the way I acted. This quite, bookworm turned into a bit of a party girl who would drink too many shots and dance until the cows came home.

Everybody saw only one side of me, and it seemed like an alien idea that I could be anything else.

Whether you’re an introvert, an extrovert or a pick ‘n’ mix of everything you should never feel embarrassed to be who you are or feel like you have to change to fit in.

-Sorry for the long post guys, wanted to get that one down for a while now, also apologies for being MIA on the blog recently. With the move, new job and getting used to everything its been a bit chaotic but your girl is back now-


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  1. October 1, 2017 / 4:43 pm

    I am the same way! I have always been this way, hah. My friends know and i have social anxiety as well so it’s ok with them if i cancel. I took a retail job and while i am there i try to hide my awardness and i am the #1 sales person but when i get home. Whew i take a bath, read, and binge on netflix. Hah.

    • October 1, 2017 / 4:46 pm

      Sometimes though we need time away from others. Too much contact with people can become stressful

    • October 8, 2017 / 11:58 pm

      I think it’s more common in my field because it’s about public relations and how you work with others.

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