It’s that time of year again when we all buy flowers, chocolates and spend out on our loved ones. It is also the time we reflect and appreciate what others do for us.
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 years. There have been some ups and downs over that time so I wanted to reflect on what my relationship has taught me.
The difference between an argument and a disagreement. All couples will have arguments and disagree on things. But what you might think is a full blown argument is actually nothing and you should just forget about it and move on. When you start throwing plates like you’re in Greece – then it’s an argument.
You will learn to love their habits. No matter how annoying it might be to start off with you just get used to the little habits they have and soon you won’t even notice it.
People change. But change can be a good thing.
It’s ok to like different things. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be mirror images of each other. Who cares if you don’t like each other’s favourite sport or the same music.
Never tell them you are ticklish. Just don’t do it.
Embrace the differences between you. I used to hate the fact that my boyfriend loves sport. But now I love it because when his football team are playing it means I get to focus some time on me. Do my hair, do work, play a game on my phone. It gives us time apart even if we are sat next to each other.
You need a break from time to time. Having a weekend apart or even a week off doesn’t mean you are going to split up. We are human and we need our own space. Just like our pets who decide they no longer want to play or be stroked – we too need time away from being cuddled.
They know you better than you know yourself. They also know how to cheer you up when things get tough.
Gifts don’t matter. Spending out on chocolates, flowers and gifts isn’t important. Valentine’s isn’t about how much you spend but who you spend it with.
Making the effort means more. It’s the little things that count, not the big fancy gifts.
You will become too comfortable with each other. This is why it is important to make the effort every so often because eventually your days will be spent less worrying about matching underwear and makeup, and more in joggers with messy hair and not caring what bodily sounds they hear.
Cuddles can fix anything. They are like tea in that way.
© Emmi Bowles